I complain that sex is not communicative except in the most mundane ways. The other donors I know who have a lot [of children] are up there around the range. So, why single out having sex with other people? The other partner may well replace their thought process of "I own my partner's sexuality" to "my partner's sexuality to me is a gift, it doesn't belong to me". I don't know that it's necessarily a question of what you "get" from monogamy or not, but rather how you feel about being true to your inner thoughts and desires. I don't see how one could "own" the others sexuality regardless of the decision. I can see intellectually that I don't have to be.
Came in her ass 5: Mature , Pornstar , Wife , Cumshot. When I knew HE was asleep I cleaned myself up and put my clothes back on. It was very hurtful still.
As the less conventional option, non-monogamy seems to get a lot of justification and rationalization such as the book that you mentioned, "Opening Up", which I've heard great things about--and even bought a copy for my partner for Valentines Day last year, a charged thing to do given that he has long encouraged our relationship to become more open, as I have advocated for monogamy. I like Grace's comments, though wanted to mention one specific point that is a hot button of mine. In the early 80s, as part of my training as a probation officer, I learned how to be a sex therapist in a week. Trump postpones Pelosi's overseas trip after she proposed State of the Union delay. How did we get here? It was the food, music, conversation — the intimate glimpse into another person. If this stuff is important enough to act on, it is probably suggestive of something important about who you are in the recent movie, The Reader, there is a beautiful illusion to the fact that our secrets reveal a lot about who we really are, and the story includes a number of long-held secrets.